You’ve raised your standards.
You’ve worked on your self-worth.
You know what a healthy relationship looks like.
But your body tells a different story.
You tense up when intimacy grows.
You spiral after a text goes unanswered.
You explain your needs instead of having them met.
You pull back or overgive to avoid abandonment.
This isn’t a mindset issue.
This is survival wiring.
And left unaddressed, this pattern repeats—
no matter how much insight you have.